Friday, October 8, 2010


Last night we crossed one of the many little milestones that mark growth in a child - and I felt my usual mix of sad and happy.

It amazes me how each little step is so very exciting...because your little one is growing up....and how each little step brings a touch of nostalgia and melancholy...because your little one is growing up. 

I know in the moments of extreme trial - the-no-sleep-newborn-phase, the-I-must-do-it-myself!-phase, the-learning-independence-phase, the-potty-training-phase (need I go on???) - the "next step" looks beautiful and fabulous and oh-so-much-easier than whatever I am facing at the moment. But it isn't. Each phase has its challenges...but each phase extreme amounts of blessing in it as well. I know I've only been at this 5 years - but I think I'm starting to get a grip on savoring the seconds....the easy ones...and especially the hard ones.

The discomfort of pregnancy...the exhaustion of middle of the night feedings...the power struggles of toddler will...the messes of potty training....the accidents....the spills...the dirty windows...the constant laundry...the repetitive teaching...the wake ups....the training...

It is a never-ending list...of gifts and blessings.  The hard part is registering it.  

I messed that up today...Jumping Bean had an accident and I lost it. I was so very upset at her...and I shouldn't have been. My schedule was plan was thrown off....but she had not meant to do wrong! That is why it is called an accident! When I apologized to her for yelling...her little eyes welled up with tears and she said, "Its okay Mommy. I forgive you. But it did make my heart sad." 

I'm sure one day I'll look back on these years and wish they were all home so I could hug away their tears or bandage their hurts. The trouble is sometimes its hard to see the gifts for the struggles.

Back to the Milestone of last night...Bitty Bean turned 16 months yesterday! And I thought it was as good a night as any to try out her big-girl bed. So my itty bitty baby girl curled up in her big girl the big girl room...and slept. She was so excited to sleep in the same room as String Bean and Jumping Bean. And I was thrilled!  But I was also sad. The nursery was empty. The monitor silent.  
 It was a moment. A marker passing time. My baby is growing up. 
Bitty Bean in her big girl bed - hugging her Daddy pillow

Sad and happy at the same time...pretty much sums up Motherhood.

Copyright 2010


  1. oh my word!!! I'M NOT READY! :( such a precious picture of her. Since i don't have another little one on the way, I'm gonna do that treasuring you were talking about...we'll think about Christmas break :) how's your man doing?

    love ya,

  2. whitney, I have 4 little ones and a5th on the way and I understand a lot of what you are going through, it is wonderful and terribly difficult to be a mommy to so many who need so much, but thanks for sharing your heart, it is an encouragement to me! keep up the good work "do not grow weary of doing good, for in due time you will reap, if you do not faint"

  3. rachel - thank you so much for your encouragement! congratulations on #5! What are your ages?
    Mel - we are all doing great. I'll have to email you all our info. :)

  4. So glad I am not the only one who "loses it" with my kids over accidents! So thankful for His grace and new mercies EVERY morning! I so need them! Beware of the enemy trying to beat you up over it! Guard yourself in His blood. Thanks for being real!


Thank you for your thoughts and encouragement!