Wednesday, April 24, 2013

"Fashion'y" stuff...

Well, I'm back at it. Posting pictures of what I wore and how I styled it because....I have no idea. 

But now that my hair is chopped all off, my style is evolving a bit. 
It is actually super fun to do stuff with this 'do! 
The chop has also upped my "funky factor." (So I'm told)
(I think it is also the fact that every single day that goes by, my children are older.)
I don't really think it has made me that much edgier...its just that the huge mop is no longer hiding stuff.

Like my double ear piercing on my left ear. Yes, I have two on only one side. On purpose. 
(And I have had that piercing since I turned 18!) 
And my nose piercing. 
(Which has actually been pierced since 2004.) 
Maybe piercings are just more expected with short hair? 
I have no idea.

Back to the whole "every single day, my children are getting older" idea.
First - motherhood is totally awesome. I mean, really. Fantastic. But it is also the hardest thing I've ever done. It is exhausting. Draining. Stretching. (In every possible way imaginable) But when you bring that screaming ball of human home with you...everything changes forever. Your title, the way the world views you, your responsibilities, your sleep patterns...everything. While that change is for a great cause and is wonderful; it is also hard. It's hard to remember who you are in all of that spit up, and poop, and feeding schedules, and laundry (OH, the LAUNDRY!). And when there are health complications - or self-induced back-to-back-to-back-to-back pregnancies - it can be extra hard to even catch glimpses of the YOU beyond Mama. 

I can't possibly be the only woman to struggle with all of those things. 
Because I look around at women who shower and get real clothes on and fix their hair everyday prior to having children...who suddenly stop caring as soon as a bean pops. Hear me clearly: For that first while....when you aren't sleeping, when your body is healing, when you are learning a new should totally chill. So, I'm not talking about the early bit. (By early bit, I mean roughly the first year, although it depends on the kid!) What I'm talking about is women who are so completely "mama" when their beans are older, they forget who they were before.

I did.
As I worked like crazy to find my healthy body, as I started to sleep again, as life in general just calmed down...I was able to rediscover who I was. 
Who I am is a wee bit crazy.
And not very good being all grown-up-y. 
I will happily discuss and talk about deep topics - but I also like to enjoy life and be silly.

I found that I was trying to be the "mom" picture that everyone said you should look like; and I'm just no good at that. But my children were specifically made with me to be their mama - so I want to be the Mama I am supposed to be.

And this mama likes to laugh. Heartily.
And wear bright colors.
And doesn't match socks. Ever.
And make everything an adventure.
And doesn't care if you want to dye your hair purple. 
(They do have to wait until they're 6)
And hash out the hard stuff of life with the beans - telling them when I don't know, instead of making up an answer.
And model a mama who loves life - with, because, even in spite of, her kids. 
(Because, some days? They are really total heathens.) 

Have you struggled to find your equilibrium in various phases?

Oh. I guess I'm supposed to say where I got my gear...
Headband - Urban Outfitters
Earrings - Target (clearance)
Shirt - Loft (clearance)
Tank - Old Navy
Jeans - Levi's (on sale)
~Whitney Copyright 2013

Monday, April 22, 2013

I could...

I could show you pictures of my living room and how awesome it looks with curtains.

(For the record - if you want curtains, GO TO IKEA. For real. Their website has nowhere near the selection they have in store. It is a grown up wonderland of deals and beautiful stuff.)

I could post pictures of the girl room (Yes, all three of our girls are sharing a room. They actually begged for it. Please get off my case) and how totally amazing all the organization is working. 

I could probably drum up something sappy to write.

I could complain about the psychotic Hampton Roads weather. (My word. It is absolute craziness.)

But I'm not gonna do any of that tonight. Nope.
I have to write down a bit about my String Bean (7.5) and my Jumping Bean (5.5) and the crazy conversation we had yesterday....

We were all (minus My Love, who is away briefly), eating breakfast before church, when out-of-the-blue String Bean says:

"Mom, how do you know the Bible is true? I mean there is a lot of stuff in it that is, you know, kinda hard to buy."

"What are you thinking of, exactly?"

"Well, the whole idea about Jesus lives forever but was a human for just a bit of time. And the guys that wrote the Bible - but God is supposed to be the one who wrote the Bible - and what if they heard him wrong?"

Seriously? Isn't that what College level philosophy classes are for? I haven't even had my coffee!

Then Jumping Bean pipes in:
"And what's up with the whole Esau business? I mean, how could a Mommy or Daddy love one kid more than the other? I don't want to believe that a brother could be so mean. Or a Daddy could be so mean. Why is that in there?"

I could tell you my answers and the conversation that followed, but really all I want to say is this...

I never thought I'd see the day where I just wished my kids were asking about sex. 


~Whitney Copyright 2013

Monday, April 8, 2013


This is a strange post for me. 
It is purely to answer questions that many people have asked - which isn't uncomfortable or odd for me normally - but the questions have been about skin care. 

And I just feel extremely stupid/weird talking about my skin care regime.

Thankfully (or unfortunately), feeling stupid has never really been a deterrent for me.  So here goes nothin'! :)

First things first, here are my stats:

My mom, me, and my sis

I was flat-out lucky when I was born into a family with (practically) wrinkle-free skin.
I am 30 years old (and very glad to say so!)
I have 4 children who are a total of 5 years apart.  (7, 5, 3.5, 2)

I don't drink Coke. 

I'm from the South, so all carbonated beverages are case you are from somewhere else -
 I don't drink soda. :) 

I mean, I will have it if we are out as a treat - and we buy 1 bottle of Sprite a week to go with our pizza night - but I am not a habitual soda drinker. This is why: One Coke = One zit on my face. For real. Since I am vain and don't want to relive high school - I greatly limit my Coke intake.  Lots and lots and lots of water for this girl!

I actually had a coke yesterday....Zit today. 
I attempted to take a picture for proof - but nobody wants to see a picture of a zit. 
Just trust me, it's there. :)

I don't get the amount of sleep I'm supposed to get because I like to stay up late and do stuff after the kids go to bed....and the best time for me to work out is before they all wake up. So, my sleep is often 6-7 hours a night at most. (Probably closer to 5-6)

Please don't tell me I need more.
 I know I need more sleep. 
My husband is a Naval Aviator who used to be the safety officer for his squadron. 
Therefore, I am quite aware that my lack of sleep is detrimental to my health and my mental functions. In fact, after going through a sleep study course and seeing the effects of LACK of sleep - he called and said that with our back-to-back-to-back-to-back babies, I've been a functioning drunk for about 5 straight years. 

So that is the majority of my baseline.

I'm not fancy when it comes to products - although I used to be.  I have rather sensitive skin and am allergic to many scents, and with all the hormonal whack-out that 4 pregnancies can do...only the $$$ stuff would cut it.

Thankfully, as my hormones have leveled off post-baby - my skin has evened out too! So now I can use the $ stuff and spend that other money on food. Because eating out is about 10 million times more fun than face wash.


Here is what I use:

Aveeno Smart Essentials Face wash/Facial scrub.
I alternate the facial scrub in the morning and the face wash at night. 
Every day.
They carry it at the Naval Exchange and Target - so it is easy to find and quite cost effective. :)
(although I can't remember the exact $ amount at the moment)

I have always been prone to eye infections, which means keeping my face clean has been quite important. (Hence, all these blasted steps!) Only since having Lasik in January, have I even been able to wear mascara. Prior to, well, right now....I wore mascara on my wedding day. And that was pretty much it. Whenever I had tried mascara in my teens, I would get an infection. So, while I'm probably safe not scrubbing my lashes and lids every night...I really don't want to take that chance.  I use one cotton ball per eye - no cross-contaminating here! - douse it with L'Oreal Eye Makeup Remover, a quick swipe over each set of lashes, rinse my face, and then I'm done. :) (And I only do this step if I wore mascara that day - the eyeliner comes clean with just the wash.)

I can't believe you're still reading.

Olay active hydrating beauty fluid - original OR sensitive 
(I get whichever one is on sale)
I use this morning and night as well - whether I'm wearing makeup or not. 
Especially in the winter.

My favorite secret weapon: Garnier Skin Renew Anti-Puff Eye Roller.
This thing is completely wonderful. I put it on right after I wash my face morning and night. AND after the shower. AND right before makeup. It seriously is my go-to item. It has made a HUGE difference for me! (My kids are finally getting older and sleeping through the that might be a factor too!)

So, that is my official "skin-care" gear for every day.
I also have this marvelous eye mask thing (imagine the opposite of super-sexy) that I keep in the fridge and sleep in whenever My Love is away. But that is a once in a while thing, so I didn't think that counted. ;)

Those are my steps for official skin care-y stuff. 
(And I'm about to potentially embarrass myself)
I also have to pay attention to obscene amounts of hair. Because, I have found that keeping that upper lip smooth can be pretty helpful in your overall appearance.
AND taking time on your eyebrows - especially if you want them to be 2! - is a big factor in how old you look. In other words, tweezers are pretty big part of my life.

I think I should stop that you know more than you EVER wanted to know about my face!
Perhaps another boring post about my new-found fun with makeup should come soon?!

~Whitney Copyright 2013